Having a Bad Day? (or even if it’s a good one…)
Two types of people walk this world; judgers and triers. Judgers, like online trolls, sit on the side lines and merely comment. Triers get out there and try to do things, try to make things happen, try to understand an issue, community group or problem.
Triers who fail feel vulnerable enough without the added pressure of judgement from others. Plus, those who succeed go on to feel the bite of jealousy. It’s a vicious circle; technically fail in order to eventually succeed whilst being judged and ridiculed throughout (regardless of the outcome).
To judge is the easiest option; the lazy choice. Anyone can do this; it’s no skill. To try though, to try at anything, takes courage to begin with, determination to persevere and patience to see if there’s a pay-off.
Judgers move on quickly, they can accumulate a mass of damage in a minuscule period of time. Some, more prolific than others, get a buzz from it. Others don’t even realise it’s who they are. A handful, use it only when they feel necessary.
“The human tongue is as sharp as a machete; to use it or not is a choice we must consciously make.”
Triers prefer to focus on their own lives, their own projects, their own aspirations. They don’t judge Barbara next door because she’s getting evicted. If anything, they’ll try to help, or at least try to understand how the situation came about. Chances are, a trier won’t even be aware of the eviction until it’s happened because they’ll have been too busy focusing on their own things!
A trier can spend their lives attempting to achieve, perfect or simply understand something. They may dedicate their being to a small number of targets. Others move swiftly from one entity to another. In order to have any hope of success a trier accepts all challenges, failures and judgmental folk; seeing them as lessons learnt or learning curves. If not, they run the risk of going crazy.
To all the triers out there, stay focused on what matters to you. Do this and nothing anyone else says or thinks will matter. Ever again.